Holiday Habits
We all know that holidays can be stressful... and family can be a huge part of that. Have you ever returned home for the holidays and found yourself reverting back to a younger version of yourself?
There is so much shared history, so many memories, and often, so much that has been left unhealed or unsaid. Our traumas can bring out the worst in ourselves and those around us.
Do you avoid family gatherings or let your unhealed trauma play a significant role in orchestrating your trips home?
Or buy an extra bottle of ______ on the way, because... coping.
Getting everyone together in the same space can bring up old dynamics and trigger some of our biggest unhealed traumas. It's no wonder we have developed so many healthy and not so healthy holiday habits to get through it all.
The Checklist
Over the last couple years, I've been compiling a checklist of items that I clear for my clients. From an energetic perspective, there are a several things that we hold in our systems that greatly effect our family relationships and dynamics. I've found that within this checklist, there are three key areas that tend to bring significant change when cleared... and could make this upcoming holiday season the best one yet.
The 3 Things to Clear
1. Unhealthy energetic connections.
With others...
We all have energetic connections with others, especially those closest to us. Because of the various contracts and agreements we entered into before we came into human form, we may find ourselves repeatedly navigating toxic relationships, locked into patterns with someone that we can't seem to change, or we may find a younger, still traumatized version of ourselves coming out around certain people.
Clearing these unhealthy energetic connections with others means we're free to be us. We can interact with the people around us from a clear, objective, and compassionate place.
With false beliefs...
Do you have a belief that feels like you fight against? Perhaps it's the belief that you're not good enough because _______. Or maybe it's a belief about money, or your gender... Even though there is a part of you that knows logically this isn't true, it seems to be in constant conflict with this belief?
You see, we have energetic connections to belief systems. Some of them don't align with the truth of our core selves. Many of these unhealthy connections are made for us early on by authority figures, peers, and the media. They can effect every aspect of life, including our confidence, our boundaries, and our ability to speak our truth.
Clearing these unhealthy energetic connections means our energy system isn't engaged in a constant struggle to align these false beliefs and our own inner knowing. We can simply be. This is a really helpful pre-holiday clearing for families that are often enmeshed in conversations of politics, religion, and hot button issues.
2. Forces.
Have you ever been made fun of or got yelled at and felt yourself shrink away in the experience? Since we are both physical and energetic beings, we have the ability to hurt those around us with our words and actions, just as easily as we can by using our fists. The emotion or intention that rides on the words or actions of others are forces. They land in our energy systems and can cause harm long after the interaction.
Clearing forces means clearing a lifetime of junk that we've been carrying around... the energetics of which can make us feel worthless, hopeless, sad, depressed, angry, rejected, and distrustful of others. If you have ever endured bullying, physical, or emotional abuse, forces are incredibly important to clear.
3. Unhealed trauma.
In our past...
Our families offer us the richest training ground for the lessons we set out to learn and the things we came into body to heal. This means they are often spaces of unhealed pain, old wounds, and resentment.
Energetically healing past traumas means the past really can be in the past. You can simply honor the people in front of you for who they are now, not what they've done to you. This work also allows your nervous system to stay out of fight or flight, leaving you to have a much more calm and joyful holiday.
Note: Even after this work, you may still decide to avoid certain members of your family for your own sanity or safety. However, this decision won't be a trauma response based in fear, but a compassionate one made from a place of healthy boundaries and an honoring of the self.
In our past lives... Throughout our many lifetimes, there is unhealed trauma. This will then be echoed through our current lifetime, starting in our childhood, asking to finally be healed. Healing something here and now, means it is then healed in the past as well.
Finding and bringing healing to these past lives means a clean slate of sorts, a releasing of any baggage you came into this life with, so you are free to focus on your current timeline.
All the difference in the world
This work yields big results. The energetics of our makeup hold the keys to so many of our "issues". Clearing these three areas within your system, truly can make all the difference in the world when it comes to your relationships... with yourself, your family, and the world around you.
Wishing your next holiday season is the best one yet.
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Ready for some energetic holiday prep? Book a one-on-one session or schedule a 15-minute check-in to chat about an issue you'd like to see if I'm able to help you with.
Angela Hed Vincent (she/her), owner of True You Tapping, is an EFT Master Practitioner and Energy Medicine Practitioner.
She helps her clients honor and release emotional trauma and energetic density, using their biggest challenges as catalysts for transformation, so they can more fully embody the truth of who they are and the unique purposes they are here to fulfill.
Interested in working with Angela? You can book a one-on-one session here or schedule a short check-in to chat about an issue you'd like to get her eyes on.
Angela introduces something new to the world of wellness and transformation. She has developed a unique approach to burnout recovery and intuitive development, and continues to create innovative programs to help people find their balance in various aspects of life.